7 things you should know about your child, Number 5 is inevitably important!!!
These things are the things that make it easy for you and your Spouse to be a great Mum or Dad, the dream of every parent is to be the Hero or Heroine of his or her Child/Children, these things will not only make you their Hero or Heroine but their Role model or permit me to say their Idol. As a teacher with close to a Decade of Teaching experience, I know these and with this Knowledge have played a very important role in the life of some Children.
1. Know their strength: The strength of your child is the part of his/her life where he/she expresses so much energy and enthusiasm, things he/she does without struggle, what he/she does almost perfectly, the positive character he/she exhibits. Teach them to build on their strength and master those positive characters, of course this is different from teaching them to be full of themselves.
2. Know their weakness: Every child has a weakness, of course you reading this, has a weakness too but mind you, weakness is very far from bad character or negative attitude, a weakness can be in the form of a natural deformity or disability, fear of past failure, dislike for a subject or the teacher, inability to associate, inability to retain knowledge or information for a long time.
When your kids observe you understand their weakness and do not use it against them then they feel confident about themselves whenever they are around you.
Know their weakness and help them turn it/them to strength. Your kids will love you if you know and apply this.
3. Know their Ambitions: Every child has an ambition and this is a factor that has a huge effect on your child and what he/she does, help them pick great ambitions and pursue a realistic goal. When they see that you have an interest in their future and are making great efforts to help them, it will make them have confidence in you. This will go a long way in making them better persons for themselves and for you.
4. Know their Passions: Knowing your child’s passion is one of the greatest assets you can have as a parent, know what keeps your child awake when others are sleeping, what he or she does with so much energy and vigor, what gives him or her so much joy, what he or she can do with little or no expectation for a reward, what he or she ask questions about at every give opportunity, what gives the child so much satisfaction, the profession he or she idolizes and where he or she exhibits so much strength.
Knowing your child’s passion is one sure way of guiding him or her in the choice of a career path or skill set to learn, it will give so much joy and satisfaction to hear your child say my father or mother guided me aright, the feeling is heavenly.
You can’t know these things if you spend little or no time with your kids, this weekend take out time to be with your child(ren), Yes, you can’t afford to fail as a parent or would you rather fail?
5. Know their Friends: There is a saying, “Show me your Friend and I will tell you who you are”, Friends and Peer has shown to be one of the greatest influences on young boys and Girls, especially Adolescents and young Teenagers. Many parents wonder where their Kids pick up negative behaviors from, little did they know that their children are in a company of Bad friends. You may be doing a great job as a parent but your efforts can be futile if you don’t take time to know their friends and guide them appropriately.
Statistics has shown that 80% of the decisions made by adolescents are determined by external factors more than they are by Parental factors which take part of the 20%. Which would you prefer, to watch out for the company your children keep or to fail your children as a parent?
Ask a Boy what he wants to do in the future and He will tell you, my friend wants to be a medical Doctor so I thought I should be a medical doctor too. This is a big challenge to parents to look into the lives of their children and help them be Friends with Good Kids from Great homes, mind you this is not stalking, this is playing the role of a good parent in the life of your Child/Children.
Another dimension to this is the social media, since the advent of social media platforms like Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram, Twitter and the likes, Monitoring the association children keep has become a challenge, these kids can be in their rooms 7 days a week and 365 days a year and have more than 5000 friends who they talk or chat with, so understanding social media and guiding your kids to use it well is very important in modern day Parenting.
6. Know who they are attracted to: Your children while growing up are prone to be attracted to the opposite sex; this is an important stage in the life of your adolescent or teenage children. Attraction to the opposite sex is normal and should not be condemned but curtailed.
Talk to them about changes in their bodies and the challenges that come with it, with this knowledge you can win them over and become their best friend and only confidant.
Attraction to the opposite sex is a character that should be celebrated in Adolescents or Teenagers, as it is the proof of potency and a healthy sexual life. This is not to say that at this stage the boys and girls should be allowed to be intimate with the opposite sex, enlightening your children about the opposite sex, will give them a good understanding of how to relate with the opposite sex.
7. Know their Role Model: You should be your child’s(ren’s) role model but you see, in other things your Child may pick a role model but you should guide them to make a choice of role model. Role models have a huge influence in the decisions young boys and girls make, Adolescent or Teenage children Learn, make decisions and take actions by looking at the people they love to be like. Young boys and girls most times don’t understand the best choice for them, they may just look at the shining surface and not understand that there is more to life than fun, ‘’sugar’’ and ‘’honey’’. I know you would want your kids to have great role models.
This is an extra tip for you; it’s a thank you for giving your time to read our article;
Know their school- This may sound ridiculous but some parents don’t know the location of their Children’s school, some don’t even know the names of the schools their children go to, they just tell you my husband or wife knows the school and that’s enough, it is not enough. Play your role as a responsible parent.
Another dimension to this is that you should know the internal structure of the school your children go to, know their core value, know their mission statement, know their background story, you can only do this if you have a good rapport with the Heads and Teachers of the school and you use any opportunity to special meetings between parents, Administrators and Teachers. This very simple things can make a huge impact on the Academics of your Child (ren).
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